Tuesday, July 30, 2013

Princess Charming

R.J. Moeller at Acculturated on why guys like Kate Middleton

[T]he vibe that Middleton gives off is one that says, “I really like my husband, and his presence is my present”. Not in any sort of “I’ll be the doting Leave It To Beaver wife caricature hardcore feminists mock” way, but in a, “I married a man I enjoy being with, and we’re going to make this unique situation we find ourselves in work” fashion that can’t help but catch you attention.

This public, visible, and seemingly genuine support for her husband is attractive to other men. It is said that girls are on the lookout for their “Prince Charming”, but I would add that most guys are on the lookout for their Duchess of Cambridge as well. We want someone who likes us and thinks we are worth their time, love, and public endorsement.

This, of course, leads into another discussion (for another time) of men needing to be worthy of such affection and admiration, but the fact remains that when men see another man’s wife treating him well in front of others, something stirs in his soul that all of the pornography, casual sex, and krunked-out partying in the world can’t erase from his memory.

Sure, men like Kate Middleton for some fairly superficial reasons. But they also like her because she represents what they ultimately want and aspire to be worthy of.
I'd say that's true.  I always put it this way: yes, love and caring and nurturing is nice and essential to a happy marriage, but when it comes right down to it, we all want a spouse who will have our back through thick and thin; but especially when we really screw something up.

Friday, July 26, 2013

Ubiquitously Ephemeral

I'm everywhere online, it seems. This blog, another blog (though increasingly less frequently 'twould appear), old blogs (up above there), Twitter and Facebook. Lots of presence, lots of words--too many probably.  For what? To hear myself talk (or "see" myself "write")?

The act of writing organizes thoughts. But now is seems like my thoughts on various and sundry topics have been organized and filed already.  I've written and opined for a decade or so on may topics and now I feel like, too often, I'm just repeating myself.  It's a challenge to say something new about the same ol' same ol', isn't it?  To not repeat yourself or echo others? I guess that's nothing new. But it's a tough standard and one to which I scarcely adhere. I guess the trick is to say the same thing in new and interesting ways.  Or don't say anything at all.

So onward. Writing organizes, yes. But it also takes work, which means practice, which means, you know, actually writing.  Not tweeting, not "posting". Writing. I've actually produced a tangible work before, I think I can again.

Thursday, September 27, 2012

Twitter Killed the Blogging Star

The title is a bit of hyperbole, but time was I maintained two blogs and contributed to a third. Now? I contribute to that same third.  What happened? Twitter.  I don't know if it's good or not, but I suspect not. Trying to debate and cram in thoughts in 140 or so characters isn't as fulfilling....but it's quicker. And it helps you avoid having to write about stuff, really. You just tweet out a link to a story, add a pithy comment and it's gone, done with. Hey, you handled it.

Oh so many years ago (like around 5), you'd read a story or just have a thought (or have a thought on a story) and you'd provide the link in the course of a 2-5 paragraph excursion, complete with blockquotes from the story as well as from other related items.  Now you tweet a link.

It's quick, it's also lazy but I don't think it's going to change.

Tuesday, March 13, 2012

Modern Technology and the Long Distance Relationship

In 1993 I worked as a merchant mariner on ship anchored in the lagoon of Diego Garcia, which is a small island in the Indian Ocean that serves as a staging ground for the U.S. military.  Back then, I paid $100 once a week to talk to my fiance for 30 minutes.  I waited for her letters like they were gold.  17 years and two kids later, it was enough to help get us through! But it was tough.  Nowadays, people in the same situation can email regularly, talk on the phone via the web and even "skype" each other to see the ones they love.  Keeping a long-distance relationship is certainly easier now. 

Monday, October 31, 2011

Soccer is over

Another Fall Recreational soccer season is over (just about). Maybe it's time to get some writing in.

Sunday, July 10, 2011

The Beautiful Game

Men, women, kids, the USA v. Brazil woman's world cup game was one of the best, most entertaining I've ever seen.


Wednesday, July 6, 2011

Footnotes on the Web

Maybe I'm late to the party, but the way that the newish website Grantland utilizes the right sidebar as a home for footnotes (example) strikes me as both effective and elegant.  I propose that it become the "web standard".